There are moments on the spiritual path when life asks us to surrender in ways we never expected. Breakups, heartbreak, and sudden shifts in direction often arrive as invitations—openings that guide us deeper into who we really are. Today, I want to speak from a very personal place, because my own heart is learning these lessons in real time.
After two and a half years together, Barney and I have made the difficult but loving decision to separate.
This was not a choice made from anger or conflict, but from clarity, compassion, and a deep honoring of each other’s truth. Love is not always meant to be held in the form we first imagined, and sometimes the most loving thing we can do is release a relationship rather than force it to fit a future it no longer aligns with.
When Plans Change, the Soul Expands
One of the hardest pieces of this transition has been accepting that the life I thought I was stepping into is no longer unfolding in that direction. As many of you know, I was preparing to move to the UK—heart open, ready to build a shared life, ready for a new chapter across the ocean.
Letting go of that vision has been its own form of heartbreak.
There is grief in releasing future memories…
There is grief in un-packing dreams you had already wrapped in hope…
And there is grief in staying rooted in a place you fully believed you were leaving.
But grief, as I always tell my clients, is a sacred teacher. And I am letting it teach me.
Staying Put When You Thought You’d Be Leaving
To remain in a place you thought you’d outgrow can feel like being sent back to page one of a story you thought was finished. But from a spiritual perspective, this is not a setback—it is a redirection. A recalibration. A return to alignment.
In these quiet days of rebuilding, I’m learning:
1. The soul never wastes a detour.
If life asks you to stay when you were prepared to go, it’s because there is something here for you—something you might have missed had your plans unfolded as expected.
2. Heartbreak is an initiation into deeper self-love.
A breakup is not a failure—it is a doorway. A threshold that asks you to meet yourself with tenderness, honesty, and courage.
3. You can hold love for someone even as you release them.
Letting go doesn’t mean the love wasn’t real. It means you are honoring the new form that love needs to take.
4. Your future is not lost—only transformed.
The life you imagined is not the only life that can bring you joy. You are not starting over; you are starting from experience.
Finding Beauty in the Rebuilding
Rebuilding in a place I thought I was leaving has been humbling. It has stripped away the illusion that I must always know what’s next. It has pulled me back into the present moment, into myself, into my own guidance.
And slowly—through journaling, meditation, movement, and quiet mornings—something new is emerging. A softness. A strength. A trust.
Spiritual growth isn’t always bright or comfortable. Sometimes it looks like sitting on the floor surrounded by pieces of a life you thought you understood. Sometimes it looks like saying goodbye to someone you deeply care about. And sometimes it looks like letting yourself hurt, without rushing to make the pain meaningful.
Yet with every breath, clarity comes.
With every tear, space opens.
With every release, the soul expands.
Closing Thoughts
If you’re going through a heartbreak or sudden life change, I want you to know this:
You are not off your path.
You are not behind.
Your heart is not broken—it’s being reshaped.
A breakup isn’t the end of your story. It’s a turning point. A moment of profound spiritual refinement. And though I am walking this tender terrain myself, I trust deeply that this too is part of my becoming.
Thank you for allowing me to share this piece of my journey. May it bring comfort, companionship, or simply the reminder that you are never alone in your healing.
With love,
Stacey
